Gosh, Shakespeare was even more right than I thought yesterday . And, as readers will remember, I already thought he was soooo right.Well you know who else is right? Natalie Imbruglia. Because "I'm torn." On the one hand, I have tons of friends who have met their partners, SO's, GFs or BFs via various online sites:
- one friend is about to move in with the boyfriend she met on okcupid
- another friend is ALREADY living with her jdate FIANCE (in Israel, it's funny because it's true) and they are tying the knot or breaking the huppa this summer.
- my friend met his boyfriend on gaydar two years ago ( sorry eharmony)
- another friend is a serial onion dater who just moved with her boyfriend (to Michigan, it's sad because it's true)
- And just tonight a friend was glowing about her boyfriend she had met on match.com
And those are just a handful of the promising precedents that should be lullingme to the computer. But I've found online dating to suck. I'll tell you some stories tomorrow, but for now, I'll share one of the problems with trying to online date, especially when you are trying to get 
over an ex. Unlike date dates, online dates are not preceded by a physical meeting (duh), which means you have no way of knowing if you and this person will have chemistry or hit it off. When you go on a date with someone you've met, you probably have at least a little bit of that going on, or why would you go out on the date. The reason this sucks for me when I'm trying to get over an ex is that it demoralizes me. It's not just an awkward or even unpleasant drink or snack. I always think "Well I know ex was bad, but at least if I were with ex I would be comfortable and amused and having some fun." I sometimes feel more hopeless and down during and after an online date than I did before. Which clearly means I got issues. I got more issues than Playboy, as my friend used to say (not about me, about her ex. I guess I Should say I have got more issues than Playgirl. But then again, I don't have any issues of Playgirl. That's a gay men's magazine right? So I could say I got more issues than Harpers.
previously: to call, or not to call: that is the question
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First of all, let's not prematurely pack me off to Michigan, mmmkay? And besides--I hear it's quite lovely there three days of the year.
But anyway, since I'm cited as an online dating success story I thought I'd share my arguments in favor of the practice:
1. Your first intro to potential date is through written correspondence, which gives you a good window into the person's mind, sense of humor, and sensibility. A better window than, say, a drunken exchange of names followed by a fingerbang in some dark corner of a party.
2. I just wanted to use the word "fingerbang."
3. Dating online is efficient. Obviously, lots of your own friends, and friends of friends, are on there. These are people you'd be likely to meet at social events anyway. Online dating sites just organize them into one place, so you don't have to traipse around from party to party to bar to bar to meet them.
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