to call, or not to call: that is the question

Shakespeare was so right on, you know? Riiiiiight? So it's been a few weeks since I went on the date with scientist Chris. As I've said, I liked him, but wasn't head of heals, (or else I would have written, "So, it's been 4 weeks and 3 days since I went on the date with scientists Chris.) Anyway, all experts (my friends) thought his behavior pointed to a follow up phone call, which he didn't, it turns out, make. Again, ironically, it's because I wasn't smitten, didn't make out with him, don't feel at all vulnerable, attached or invested that I would consider reaching out to him. But I'm trying to be a Rules girl. And a Rules girl never calls a boy.

But I heard a story this weekend that challenges the conventional wisdom of The Rules (and many people). My friend went out on a date with a guy which, she thought, went really well. But, to her surprise and dismay, he didn't call her. She had a gut feeling that they had a great time. So, though she doesn't usually do this, she called him. They went out, had a great time and the rest, as they say, is history (they've been dating for months and they're really into each other.) My friend actually asked her now boyfriend, why then disappointing frustrating date boy didn't call her. He said that he thought she would have if she had liked him.

I always thought that the whole "I'm sure he likes you. He's probably not calling you because he thinks you don't like him" argument was a figment of women's imaginations; the kind of self delusion that made He's Just Not That Into You so desperately necessary! But here is living proof of a guy who really did like the girl and really didn't call because he thought she didn't like him.

Of course, who knows if he's telling the truth? And maybe this should have served as a filter to weed out guys who aren't brave and secure enough to call up a girl they like. I dunno.

So, to call Chris, or not to call Chris: that, once again, is the question.