There's a fine line between friends and more than friends (If you're retarded)

During the last conversation I will have for a while/ ever with Juan, he thoughtfully reflected "you fell for me really fast." He was attributing our accelerated relationship to my falling so hard for him. I can't say I fell for him. I more, against my better judgement and knowing it was going nowhere the whole time, let myself become involved in a man with a chaotic, complicated, messy and problematic life. But I didn't say that. I said, instead, that I thought he had been pretty gung ho about me and us as well and had said a lot of relationshipy things very early on, so early, actually, that I remember being a little alarmed (though flattered.) To jog his memory, I reminded him that he had said [after our third date, which did include a pg 13 sleepover] "I really like you. I think I can learn a lot from you. And maybe, you know, you could learn a little from me." I also reminded him that a week later, he had told me he told his parents about me. Showing a remarkable self awareness, Juan responded by saying "Yeah, but I could have said that about a friend. Those are things I would say about a guy." So was I being daft? Or was he being dishonest? OK, potentially, I could tell my parents about a cool friend I met, but I can't see why I would have come up when he went back to Puerto Rico to attend his grandmother's funeral. Was it like, "mom, dad, speaking of the loss of abuelita, I met a really cool friend." Or "The thing that makes me the saddest is that abuelita never got to meet this really cool friend of mine." And I guess I could tell a friend I just met I was looking forward to having a mutually edifying relationship. I've never said this, and I can't imagine saying it to any friend any time soon. But maybe I'm too uptight.

I realize that I TOTALLY read into what Juan was saying to me. I distorted clearly platonic statements into romantic ones. I'll list them just so you can see how oblivious I was to his friendly intentions.

"You're someone who I could take home to my mom" [as a friend].

"I like you, I really like you [my friend]."

"I think you would really like Puerto Rico and one day maybe we can go there" [as friends].

"I like dating one person at a time" [as a friend].

"I was telling my sister/ bar tender/ cousin/ nieces about you" [my friend].

"I love your face. Your eyes just pierce me" [friend].

"I've never met anyone like you" [friend].

"I feel so comfortable with you" [my friend].

"I can tell how much you care. You really care and are there for me" [as a friend].

"I like you like crazy" [as a friend].

"You make me feel like a New Kids on The Block" [friend].