red flag: inappropriate social networking site pages

Here are some Red Flags I wasn't prepared to look for. If I can help prevent one reader from making my mistakes, it will have been worth it.

Like all Jewish mothers, my mother always said, a "a man's MySpace page is the window to his soul." If only I had heeded that warning. Readers, an inappropriate MySpace* page often means an inappropriate choice. A man's poor MySpace judgement might reflect his poor judgement in general. For example, I should have been weary of Juan's MySpace flaws, which I blogged about (MySpace or Your's?). So ladies, don't make my mistake! Be on the look out for the following red flags:


1) a main photo featuring an extended middle finger (if the photo is embedded 30 photos into his album, this may be excusable, though it's still less than ideal). Loving photos with children, nieces, nephews etcetera, do not justify the middle finger photo (MFP). In fact, they make the MFP that much more disconcerting and incongruous.

2) photos of an ex/ multiple exes/ baby(ies) mama(s)

3) photos of bikini models

4) inappropriate level of interest in and attention to said social networking space

* Of course, in theory, we need to be on the look out for warnings signs on any social networking sites (SNS) , be they FaceBook, Friendster, hi5 etc. In practice, however, I've found that MySpace is the the immature or inappropriate man's SNS of choice.